If you’re a millennial, there’s no doubt you’ve heard these words to describe your generation so freely. We really do have a bad rap among older folks. In a 2014 survey [pdf] of American adults, 71% described millennials as selfish, while 65% said they’re an entitled group of people.
I’ve always disagreed with these labels – for myriad reasons.
How can the media, our relatives, our older colleagues be so chill about labeling a group of 75M+ VERY DIVERSE people?
As far as I’ve seen, millennials are an incredibly hard working, side-hustling, education-getting bunch. The Gen Yers I know put in their time – working 10-12 hours per day on the reg. They don’t arrive on the job only to sit down, do nothing and expect everything to be handed to them. Yeah, there are exceptions. Some people are hot mess trolls and whatnot, but for the most part, I’m impressed with how hard my peers work to make their communities and the world at large a better place. That doesn’t sound selfish or entitled to me.
Whew! That said—I kinda, sorta think I finally found out where the whole entitlement argument comes from.
My fellow millennials – listen up. I don’t care if you’re from NYC, Cincinnati or middle-of-nowhere Arkansas. I don’t care if you’re a lady, dude or you don’t identify with either gender. I don’t care if you’re black, white, Asian, Jewish, Buddhist, or purple. I don’t care if you’re heterosexual or LGBTQ+.
If you are, however, single, and on some sort of online dating platform, I need you to take 10 minutes from playing Pokemon Go and read this. It’s very important.
If you stumble across a human being you would like to mate with, and you ask them out on a date and suggest a specific activity/location, I have some news for you: You offer to pay the entire bill at the end of said date.
I’ve said it time and time again: Millennials value experiences over things. I often cite a July 2014 Eventbrite survey that reveals just how much. In it, 78% of millennial consumers said they’d rather spend their extra cash money on an experience/event over a product.
For a lot of people, that probably means deciding to go to a music festival instead of buying an Apple Watch. For me, it goes way beyond that.
New York, I loved you. Part of me still does, sort of. New York is a city of firsts for me: where I drew my first breath as a living being; where I indulged in my first of many cries; where I had my first kiss in a dingy high school stairwell; and where I first began my obsession with Aubrey Graham as a 13-year-old girl.
During my formative years in Brooklyn, I was invincible. Despite 9/11 and the terror it evoked, I had zero fear of the streets, the people, or the fast-paced lifestyle. In fact, I embraced all of New York’s eccentricities. I felt like I owned the city.
A few nights ago, I felt the need to indulge in some binge-watching. I hadn’t watched “The Mindy Project” since my girl made the move to Hulu, so it was definitely time to catch up. A major plotline in the fourth season involves Mindy trying to get her fertility practice off the ground. In the episode titled “Later, Baby,” Mindy and her colleagues go to NYU and explain to a lecture hall full of female students the importance of freezing their eggs in today’s world.
My friends, 2015 is the year of Drake — my favorite millennial in the history of millennials. (Though if you really know me, you are well aware that every year since 2003 has been “The Year of Drake.”)
Drake kicked off 2015 by releasing a surprise album that was unlike anything we’d heard from him before. It was a welcome treat that invoked a flurry of emotions (as always) – and on the eve of Valentine’s Day, to boot. This summer, we saw his character put to the test after a young sir named Meek Mill attempted to besmirch his name on Twitter. The upshot? Drake slayed the guy with a series of freestyle raps and a well-presented PowerPoint. Since this summer, not only has Drake released another album, but he’s hit a milestone as the 4th artist to score 100 Billboard Hot 100 hits; he’s received amazing reviews for his annual Toronto-based OVO fest, and he apparently began dating the greatest lady athlete of all time.
Feeling comfortable in my personal space is of utmost importance, but that’s been difficult to achieve since moving back to New York where every living situation feels so ephemeral. If you were to peep into my room, you’d find bare walls with the exception of one small “piece” I got from Target a few years ago. I’d love to upgrade myself, but art is expensive and not very high on my list of financial priorities at the moment. And to top it all off, I wouldn’t even know where to start.
But I think I finally found a solution—and no, I’m not talking hot mess create-your-own-canvas-art Pinterest Fails. I had the pleasure last night of meeting designers Robert and Cortney Novogratz at the launch of Toto’s newest super-fancy, life-changing toilet. I was hooked on their Bravo show “9 by Design” my senior year of college. Robert and Cortney are an unpretentious couple with seven kids (who have the most amazing names ever, i.e. their fifth child is named Five), and they live in outright style. I took the opportunity to ask them for some easy decorating tips for millennials who are just starting out.
No surprise here: Money issues are driving a drop in marriages in the US. I’ve never attempted to fuse my life with another person’s, but if there’s one thing I know, it’s that talking about finances is pretty heavy stuff. That first discussion about money with a significant other isn’t easy, especially if you know you’ve made big mistakes in the past and you’re in serious debt (no thanks to those 3 pairs of Louboutins you charged to your card back in ’09). It’s a scary conversation to have, so a lot of people avoid it.
Some people are so daunted by the whole thing, that they avoid taking a serious, hard look into their own finances. Approximately one-third of US adults don’t know their credit score, according to survey results released by Capital One tonight at their “Credit Tracker Trivia Night” event. And that number is even higher among millennials.
I get it—we’re poor. But if we have enough money to dine out, we should probably be tipping accordingly, am I right?
Approximately one-third of US millennials don’t. According to a recent online survey by Harris Poll conducted on behalf of Michelin, 30% of Americans between 18 and 34 admit they usually tip less than 15% of a bill for good service. (Note: Thatz not okay. The Emily Post Institute, and well, society, says you should leave 15%.) The majority—70%—of Americans usually tip between 15% and 20% for good service, with those who are older than 65 driving this customary behavior. Millennials are least likely of all age groups to tip within the 15% to 20% range. Just 55% do it regularly.
A splendid thing happened for me on Saturday afternoon, friends. I met Patti Stanger (better known to some as the Millionaire Matchmaker), one of my lifestyle idols. Patti, along with a panel of relationship and sex experts, presented the findings of Match.com’s 2014 Singles in America study.
Although the survey was completed by daters of all ages, I feel the results and Saturday’s panel discussion broached topics that really hit home for millennials who are out there dating.