If you’re a millennial, there’s no doubt you’ve heard these words to describe your generation so freely. We really do have a bad rap among older folks. In a 2014 survey [pdf] of American adults, 71% described millennials as selfish, while 65% said they’re an entitled group of people.
I’ve always disagreed with these labels – for myriad reasons.
How can the media, our relatives, our older colleagues be so chill about labeling a group of 75M+ VERY DIVERSE people?
As far as I’ve seen, millennials are an incredibly hard working, side-hustling, education-getting bunch. The Gen Yers I know put in their time – working 10-12 hours per day on the reg. They don’t arrive on the job only to sit down, do nothing and expect everything to be handed to them. Yeah, there are exceptions. Some people are hot mess trolls and whatnot, but for the most part, I’m impressed with how hard my peers work to make their communities and the world at large a better place. That doesn’t sound selfish or entitled to me.
Whew! That said—I kinda, sorta think I finally found out where the whole entitlement argument comes from.
Feeling comfortable in my personal space is of utmost importance, but that’s been difficult to achieve since moving back to New York where every living situation feels so ephemeral. If you were to peep into my room, you’d find bare walls with the exception of one small “piece” I got from Target a few years ago. I’d love to upgrade myself, but art is expensive and not very high on my list of financial priorities at the moment. And to top it all off, I wouldn’t even know where to start.
But I think I finally found a solution—and no, I’m not talking hot mess create-your-own-canvas-art Pinterest Fails. I had the pleasure last night of meeting designers Robert and Cortney Novogratz at the launch of Toto’s newest super-fancy, life-changing toilet. I was hooked on their Bravo show “9 by Design” my senior year of college. Robert and Cortney are an unpretentious couple with seven kids (who have the most amazing names ever, i.e. their fifth child is named Five), and they live in outright style. I took the opportunity to ask them for some easy decorating tips for millennials who are just starting out.
No surprise here: Money issues are driving a drop in marriages in the US. I’ve never attempted to fuse my life with another person’s, but if there’s one thing I know, it’s that talking about finances is pretty heavy stuff. That first discussion about money with a significant other isn’t easy, especially if you know you’ve made big mistakes in the past and you’re in serious debt (no thanks to those 3 pairs of Louboutins you charged to your card back in ’09). It’s a scary conversation to have, so a lot of people avoid it.
Some people are so daunted by the whole thing, that they avoid taking a serious, hard look into their own finances. Approximately one-third of US adults don’t know their credit score, according to survey results released by Capital One tonight at their “Credit Tracker Trivia Night” event. And that number is even higher among millennials.