I’ve been holding off on writing this blog post for a few months now. Why? Mostly out of fear; fear of being open and vulnerable. But, my life journey calls for me to live truthfully and do things that make me uncomfortable. So, here it is!
About four months ago, I was laying wide awake at 1 a.m. while my boyfriend slept soundly. I counted a bunch of sheep, and it didn’t work, so I turned to my trusty companion: Reddit. If you’re not familiar with Reddit, it is fascinating. This site is like all of the bad things and all of the good things about the Internet in one place. It melts my heart to browse the “good” communities, where the kindest people go to show the world some love.Read More
Guys. October has been one hell of a month so far – and not in a stellar way.
From the tragedies in Puerto Rico and Las Vegas, to the itty-bitty-shitties that life has thrown my way… I have found myself completely baffled by everything and feeling sort of out of control.Read More
Hello, my name is Stephanie, and I’m a people pleaser. I have a hard time saying “no” to unwanted commitments because I’m incredibly afraid of upsetting people or even worse – *gasp* – having them think I’m a bitch.Read More
A few weeks ago, I tried to sum up my bicultural experience on this blog. TL;DR – it’s tough to identify as Hispanic and American at the same time. It’s especially tough when you don’t look or sound like the media’s stereotypical portrayal of Hispanic. I look nothing like J.Lo, and I definitely do not sound “exotic” [eyeroll] 🙄 like Salma Hayek.
Well, I recently came across a real-life example of this experience … and because I am a true millennial who loves to overshare, I’m gonna give you guys the deets.Read More
Last month, I experienced one of the proudest moments ever as I watched my niece Ashley graduate from university. [She’s only seven years younger than I am, so we’re close – almost more like sisters than aunt|niece.]
The most touchingmoment of the entire weekend was when Ash delivered her speech as the selected student speaker for the school’s multicultural graduation (also known as Kushinda or Ritos de Pasaje). Homegirl stood up there, spoke like a boss, and absolutely crushed it.Read More
If you’re a millennial, there’s no doubt you’ve heard these words to describe your generation so freely. We really do have a bad rap among older folks. In a 2014 survey [pdf] of American adults, 71% described millennials as selfish, while 65% said they’re an entitled group of people.
I’ve always disagreed with these labels – for myriad reasons.
How can the media, our relatives, our older colleagues be so chill about labeling a group of 75M+ VERY DIVERSE people?
As far as I’ve seen, millennials are an incredibly hard working, side-hustling, education-getting bunch. The Gen Yers I know put in their time – working 10-12 hours per day on the reg. They don’t arrive on the job only to sit down, do nothing and expect everything to be handed to them. Yeah, there are exceptions. Some people are hot mess trolls and whatnot, but for the most part, I’m impressed with how hard my peers work to make their communities and the world at large a better place. That doesn’t sound selfish or entitled to me.
Whew! That said—I kinda, sorta think I finally found out where the whole entitlement argument comes from.
My fellow millennials – listen up. I don’t care if you’re from NYC, Cincinnati or middle-of-nowhere Arkansas. I don’t care if you’re a lady, dude or you don’t identify with either gender. I don’t care if you’re black, white, Asian, Jewish, Buddhist, or purple. I don’t care if you’re heterosexual or LGBTQ+.
If you are, however, single, and on some sort of online dating platform, I need you to take 10 minutes from playing Pokemon Go and read this. It’s very important.
If you stumble across a human being you would like to mate with, and you ask them out on a date and suggest a specific activity/location, I have some news for you: You offer to pay the entire bill at the end of said date.