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Feeling Powerless? Make Self-Care Your No. 1 Priority

Guys. October has been one hell of a month so far – and not in a stellar way.

From the tragedies in Puerto Rico and Las Vegas, to the itty-bitty-shitties that life has thrown my way… I have found myself completely baffled by everything and feeling sort of out of control.

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This has not been the first stretch of my life in which I’ve felt powerless. And I know for a fact, it will not be the last. We can control a lot, but we cannot control natural disasters, or other people’s awful decisions to cause harm.

In times like these, we need to cling on to what we can control: ourselves + how we react to the world around us.

Yes, this is the time for us to do everything we can to make the world around us a better place. But, we need to make sure we are taking care of ourselves, too. It’s like the flight attendants say before you take off: “Before helping others, please make sure your own mask is secure.” If you try to assist others without your mask on, you literally will not have the oxygen you need to continue helping.

So, during life moments like these, how on earth do we protect ourselves? You got it: Self-care.

Hold-up-wait-a-minute. People keep throwing around the term “self-care” a bunch. But, what does it even mean?! Is it just some empty phrase we spew out to sound like modern healers? No, no, no! It’s legit, I promise. Here’s how I define it:

9 ways *you* can practice self-care

* Unplug. Yep. Turn off the news. Get off social media. Stop debating with people on public forums. Stop taking in all the stuff that’s causing you to feel awful in the first place. Yes, people are suffering, but that doesn’t mean that we need to soak in all of the images of their suffering in order to empathize with them. There are better ways.

* Meditate. Believe it or not, this one right herrrre is probably the most helpful method of practicing self-care. Meditation; prayer; connecting with the universe – whatever you want to call it – is so, so crucialStudies show that this is a super helpful remedy for stress and anxiety.

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I swear by it. I rub frankincense oil on my chest and just breathe. The act of sitting down and thinking about nothing but your breath sounds difficult, but, try it. The Calm app is a good way to start.

* Take a walk. This is the perfect time of year for it, so throw on your sneakers and just walk for 30 minutes.

* Connect with a good friend. Facetiming with my best friend who lives in California is always awesome. I could feel like the hottest mess in the world, but breaking it down with this girl will always be a little dose of therapy.

Which brings me to …

* Therapy. I’m a huge advocate of people seeking therapy – regardless if they have a mental health condition or not. Talking to someone who can provide unbiased feedback is so valuableespecially if your insurance will help you pay for it. If your insurance won’t help pay for it, there are other options. I haven’t personally tried the TalkSpace app, but I’ve heard good things.

* Listen to inspiring words. The Super Soul Conversations podcast is my jam. Y’all know I’m out here trying to become the millennial Oprah, so her words are like 🔥 to me. But, there are other ones too! Seriously, hearing other people talk about how they see the world around them is magic.

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* Take a bubble bath. This is my new favorite. I pour myself a glass of rosé or Kombucha, put on some relaxing music [Of Monsters & Men, usually], drop some lavender essential oil into my bath, and just veg out.

* Journal. I’ve always been a huge journal-er, but my life coach Lucy (who is an incredible human – 10/10 recommend!) has me doing it in a new way. She asks me to answer this question each evening: “How have I empowered myself today?” Not only has this practice challenged me to think about what I’m doing to empower myself, it inspires me to keep living with intention.

* Treat yo’self to something relaxing. Give yourself a manicure, or splurge on a massage, or go sit in the park with some snacks and your favorite book. Treat yourself to a little something. You’re an awesome person, and you deserve it.

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Take care of you …

… because even though you might be feeling the itty-bitty-shitties right now, guess what? The sun will still rise tomorrow. Life will go on, and we need you to stay on the up-and-up so we can continue to fight the good fight together.

xo!

How to Get Your Resume (and Cover Letter!) Noticed in 2017

Oh, these hot mess millennials and their job-hopping. A solid 38% are planning to leave their current employer within two years.

I believe it … because, if you’re reading this …

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Nah, it’s not too late.

If you’re reading this and know me IRL, there’s a good chance I’ve helped you write your resume, edit your cover letter, or I have conducted a mock interview with you. I do it for family, neighbors, friends, even my niece’s friends. Last year, I went on a spree where I legit reworked about 8 different resumes/cover letters within 2 weeks.

Please note: I am NOT a career counselor or recruiter. I have never done this professionally or charged money for resume writing. It just makes me happy to see my friends accomplish cool stuff + get that schmoney they deserve. #FBGM

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That said, I have seen a bunch of resumes and cover letters over the years. So, I’ve decided to compile the top feedback I’ve doled out to my pals. I hope these insights are helpful to you too, if you are in search of a new gig!

RESUME DO’S & DON’TS

1. Narrow it down to one page. I get it – you have a lot of ground to cover. You “can’t cut anything out because it’s all important.” Guess what? The average amount of time recruiters spend looking at resumes is 6 seconds. SIX SECONDS. You have no option but to give them highlights that will stand out. If you have an extensive background, break down the accomplishments from your last three roles + your education + your relevant skills.

2. Do not try to fit more in by making the font smaller. Ain’t nobody got time to be squinting their eyes to try and read that you managed a team of five.

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3. Nix the objective. It’s 2017, you do not need an objective. No one is going to read it and be like, “FUCK YES. THIS WOMAN IS SEEKING A ROLE IN WHICH SHE CAN APPLY HER GENUINE PASSION FOR CONSUMER RESEARCH.” That much is obvious if you are applying for the job. If you are truly compelled to talk about what you are looking for, write a brief cover letter (more on that later).

4. Include all of the metrics. People love numbers. They pop out. So, go on, BB, and let that recruiter know if you brought in $250,000 worth of sales last quarter; or if you promoted a webinar that 500 people attended; or if you maintained order in a classroom of 18 toddlers. I promise you, even if you think you don’t have a metric to highlight, you do.

5. Get creative with your verbs. Yeah, we all know you “helped” or that you “led.”😴😴😴! There are way more dynamic things you can say. Take a look at these powerful verbs you should use instead.

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6. Be consistent. If you have three bullet points for the first job, use three for the second job and so-forth. If you italicize one position, italicize the next, and so on.

7. Fix your formatting. Do not send your resume with jacked formatting to people. I promise you they will open it and won’t even spend the six seconds on it. Want to make sure your resume will look clean no matter whose hands it reaches? Save and send as a PDF. HR systems are advanced enough these days that they can parse PDFs pretty well.

8. Check, recheck and check your spelling and grammar one more time. I know this goes without saying, but, y’all – I have seen SO many careless mistakes in resumes. I have sent my resume out with careless mistakes in the past. The last thing you want a speed-reading recruiter to catch is a spelling error. Ask a friend or relative or anyone to proofread it.

WHAT’S UP WITH THAT COVER LETTER?

1. If they ask for a cover letter, send one. Only 26% of recruiters consider cover letters important. That means this hiring requirement is becoming obsolete. So, if someone asks for it in the job description, they actually plan on looking at it. (If they don’t ask for it, I advise you to only send your resume or to just send a quick introductory note saying hello!)

2. “To Whom This May Concern” + “Dear Sir or Madam” are from the days of yore. If you can find the Hiring Manager’s name, use it. Otherwise, go with “Dear [company name] team!” or even “Dear Hiring Manager” if the company is a bit more corporate.

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3. Keep it brief. Like, 250 words at most. If they’re only looking at your resume for 6 seconds, they’re legit only scanning your cover letter for words that pop out at them.

4. Don’t repeat what you already stated in your resume. They already have that. Share what makes you unique, show them the value you’d provide if hired. The last cover letter I sent was for a job that wasn’t even posted. I went through their website, and shared ideas on how they could improve it. I proved my value in this brief note to them. Guess what? They emailed me months later telling me they finally had a position open, and that they had kept me in mind because of that innovative email I sent.

5. Don’t say weird shit. Friend, I love you, but the cover letter is not the place for you to get odd and personal. Let your voice shine through, but keep it professional.

5. Check your spelling and grammar. Duh.

Happy Job Hunting!

I could go on, but I’ll leave you with this: You are awesome, and you are capable. You are NOT some basic bitch. If you want to be making more money, you can do it. If you want to be happier at work, it is 100% possible. Commit to it, boss babe, because I know for a fact that you can land the job of your dreams.

Need some pointers? You know I gotchu. Want to share some tips of your own? We wanna hear them! Shoot me an email [stephanie@livedynamic.co], hit me up on social media or just comment below!

xo, BBs!

Life Pro Tip: Don’t Assume Demographics. Just Ask

A few weeks ago, I tried to sum up my bicultural experience on this blog. TL;DR – it’s tough to identify as Hispanic and American at the same time. It’s especially tough when you don’t look or sound like the media’s stereotypical portrayal of Hispanic. I look nothing like J.Lo, and I definitely do not sound “exotic” [eyeroll] 🙄 like Salma Hayek.

Well, I recently came across a real-life example of this experience … and because I am a true millennial who loves to overshare, I’m gonna give you guys the deets. Read More

Growing Up Bicultural in America, and Learning to Embrace It

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Last month, I experienced one of the proudest moments ever as I watched my niece Ashley graduate from university. [She’s only seven years younger than I am, so we’re close – almost more like sisters than aunt|niece.]

The most touching moment of the entire weekend was when Ash delivered her speech as the selected student speaker for the school’s multicultural graduation (also known as Kushinda or Ritos de Pasaje). Homegirl stood up there, spoke like a boss, and absolutely crushed it. Read More

Hey Brides, Quit Making Your Friends Pay For the Start of Your Lives

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Entitled. Narcissistic. Selfish.

If you’re a millennial, there’s no doubt you’ve heard these words to describe your generation so freely. We really do have a bad rap among older folks. In a 2014 survey [pdf] of American adults, 71% described millennials as selfish, while 65% said they’re an entitled group of people.

I’ve always disagreed with these labels – for myriad reasons.

  1. How can the media, our relatives, our older colleagues be so chill about labeling a group of 75M+ VERY DIVERSE people?
  2. As far as I’ve seen, millennials are an incredibly hard working, side-hustling, education-getting bunch. The Gen Yers I know put in their time – working 10-12 hours per day on the reg. They don’t arrive on the job only to sit down, do nothing and expect everything to be handed to them. Yeah, there are exceptions. Some people are hot mess trolls and whatnot, but for the most part, I’m impressed with how hard my peers work to make their communities and the world at large a better place. That doesn’t sound selfish or entitled to me.

Whew! That said—I kinda, sorta think I finally found out where the whole entitlement argument comes from.

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The Definitive Answer: Who Pays for the First Date?

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My fellow millennials – listen up. I don’t care if you’re from NYC, Cincinnati or middle-of-nowhere Arkansas. I don’t care if you’re a lady, dude or you don’t identify with either gender. I don’t care if you’re black, white, Asian, Jewish, Buddhist, or purple. I don’t care if you’re heterosexual or LGBTQ+.

If you are, however, single, and on some sort of online dating platform, I need you to take 10 minutes from playing Pokemon Go and read this. It’s very important.

If you stumble across a human being you would like to mate with, and you ask them out on a date and suggest a specific activity/location, I have some news for you: You offer to pay the entire bill at the end of said date.

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Too Much Stuff? Minimalism is the Move

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I’ve said it time and time again: Millennials value experiences over things. I often cite a July 2014 Eventbrite survey that reveals just how much. In it, 78% of millennial consumers said they’d rather spend their extra cash money on an experience/event over a product.

For a lot of people, that probably means deciding to go to a music festival instead of buying an Apple Watch. For me, it goes way beyond that.

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New York, I Loved You: A Farewell to My Hometown Glory

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New York, I loved you. Part of me still does, sort of. New York is a city of firsts for me: where I drew my first breath as a living being; where I indulged in my first of many cries; where I had my first kiss in a dingy high school stairwell; and where I first began my obsession with Aubrey Graham as a 13-year-old girl.

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During my formative years in Brooklyn, I was invincible. Despite 9/11 and the terror it evoked, I had zero fear of the streets, the people, or the fast-paced lifestyle. In fact, I embraced all of New York’s eccentricities. I felt like I owned the city.

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